50 Shades of Deceit

FotoFlexer_Photo50Did God really say that you must not eat of the fruit from the tree?  Surely you will not die. He knows that you will then be like Him, knowing good and evil.”  The strangest part of what the serpent said to Eve in the Garden of Eden is that in the midst of the seductive temptation was a great truth.  Great truth set on a foundation of little lies will always produce great deceit.  When the serpent told Adam and Eve that they would surely not die, but be like God knowing good and evil, he was right. When he said they would not die, he took advantage of their naivety.  They did not understand that they were protected from death as long as they did not know good and evil.  The minute they discovered good and evil, death kicked down the door of their soul.  Deceit always ends in shattered innocence.  Before they took the forbidden, they were unashamed.  Shame drove them from God, from one another, and from the Garden.  This is 50 Shades of Deceit.

The alluring words of a forked tongue have created a stir around this movie, 50 Shades of Grey. I would hear people in the media talk about the sensual scenes, seduced. Seduced by domination and sadomasochism, how is that possible?  At a time when our society is crying out for women to be treated with great respect as God intends, a movie where a woman is dominated physically, mentally, and emotionally is held high with suggestions that women might enjoy this kind of (I want to say intimacy, but I can’t bring myself to describe narcissistic and abusive behavior as intimacy) sex.  I would remind everyone that like the fruit of Eden, all temptations wear the mask of pleasure, joy, fulfillment, love.  But let us be sure that there comes a day when the mask is removed.  And in 50 Shades of Grey, the mask does come off as the character Christian beats his ‘girlfriend’ with a belt forcing her to count every stinging lash across her naked body.

Abusive domination of women, extreme punishment and pain create fear and subjugation.  Because this woman has been seduced and willingly goes along, it’s as if the whole world has said that this is fine.  Beautiful people, consenting adults engaged in abusive behavior, is that really ok? The serpent’s seductive tongue has us biting into the forbidden once again.  Let us not be deceived.

Sex without love and commitment equals hedonism and idolatry.  In the movie, he was a hedonist worshipping sex and she worshipped him. Hedonism is self-worship and idolatry is false-worship.  Both work to separate us from God. Intimacy in marriage was intended by God to strengthen the emotional bond between a husband and wife.  To pretend intimacy positively while lacking in true, sacrificial love spoken in wedding vows is a deceit that rivals that very first deception.  Biblical intimacy calls for a giving of oneself to the other, not using the other for our own selfish desires. When abuse and degradation mix with sensuality and pleasure, hush yourself and you will hear the whisper of Hell’s snake slithering at your feet. Close your ears.  Stomp on his head. Don’t take the forbidden.  It will only lead to death.

Pastor Lee is the Lead Pastor at CrossRoads Community Church in San Antonio, Texas. His message focuses on the healing power of Scripture through the power of the Holy Spirit. He is the Father of three awesome sons and he is madly in love with his wife, Amy. And his favorite past time is losing golf balls in the rough while attempting to play a round of golf.

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3 comments on “50 Shades of Deceit
  1. Janie Young says:

    Excellent article. We are to shun even the appearance of evil, and we are to set nothing evil before our eyes.

  2. susan says:

    Well enough said, not a movie I ant to see. Amen on sharing. God’s way is the only way to all that is good

  3. karen says:

    I’ll never forget when we were in seminary and the XX was “Deep throat”. Paul talked me into going to a matinee…. we both had come from naiveté. Us and a bunch of dirty old men…. and it ruined a rather healthy sex life for several months. BTW – Glad Linda Lovelace became a Christian….

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